Love and Value

Acceptance

I want to utter the words, “Please accept me for who I am”, but I stopped. I realized that this is what I really need..
“Please accept my past ‘coz I don’t have the power to change it. But don’t settle for who I am in the present, for I know that I still have more room for growth and I can still change to become a better person. All that I ask for right now is for you to: be patient if I’m not there yet; forgive me for my shortcomings and mistakes; stay with me despite my weaknesses and limitations; and walk with me in this journey as I walk with you in yours.

Change

It’s not your love that will change people, but God’s grace and love. And even if they can experience God’s love through you, you can’t always expect that people will change simply because you love them or simply because they love you. And even if they do change, remember this: If true love comes from Agape (God’s love), and Hesed (the love that we give) comes from Agape, then it’s still God who changed that person, not you. We can’t change people. Only God can. We’re only instruments. If people changed because we loved them, they owe us nothing.. they owe everything to God

Strength to hold on and Wisdom to let go

In relationships, the ABILITY to hold on or to let go shouldn’t be the measurement of one’s true strength and wisdom. Both requires strength and nobody can really tell if one is better than the other. Being in a relationship entails a huge amount of patience and a lot of effort in order to make things work; while letting go requires a lot of courage to accept one’s lost and enough perseverance to endure the pain of moving on.

For me, a strong and wise person is one who:
1. has the ability discern whether he/she should still hold on or it’s time to let go;
2. can be responsible enough to pay for the price of his/her decision by accepting the consequences that goes with it without being bitter and find joy and purpose in the midst of pain and hardships; and
3. is faithful enough to regret nothing and surrender everything to God, believing that God has a purpose for everything.